Soulmates – from an NDE Perspective

“I love you without knowing how, or when, or from where. I love you simply, without problems or pride: I love you in this way because I do not know any other way of loving but this, in which there is no I or you, so intimate that your hand upon my chest is my hand, so intimate that when I fall asleep your eyes close.”
Pablo Neruda, 100 Love Sonnets

Written by Jody Long (NDERF – Near Death Experience Research Foundation)

We never thought we would be talking about soulmates.  We heard of them, but never expected to be in a soulmate relation.  Now we recognize we are soulmates, and are eager to see how our experiences compared with others.  There is surprisingly little on the Internet.  We then started asking people what they thought a soulmate was; the answers were quite varied.  Answers from others suggest the common understanding of a soulmate is the other half of a perceived ideal relationship.  Naturally, this is a highly subjective impression that doesn’t provide much direction.  We will present a remarkable new understanding of SoulMates… and show how ALL of us are involved.

A lame definition of soulmate can be found in Webster’s dictionary as “a person temperamentally suited to another.”  This definition fails to capture the passion one would expect with a fantasy other, or the expected special significance of a soulmate relation.  A better definition results from combining the concept of the component words “soul” and “mate” to come up with “a spiritual companion.”  A more detailed discussion of how we came up with a soulmate definition will be presented later.

The following is a discussion of soulmate understandings from historical concepts (karmic, dharmic and twin flame).  We will later present how NDE truths reveal a new understanding of soulmates.

The popular notion of KARMIC SOULMATES are those that are with you so that both of you can work out issues together.  Typically, these are deep relationships that have key lessons for both parties to learn.  Many times the hallmark of these relationships is a lot of chaos and strife. Karmic lessons are said to be over when the lessons are learned, and there is no more animosity or anger projected at the other person.  The key is forgiveness.  Karma is released when you love the other person unconditionally in spite of their shortcomings.

DHARMIC SOULMATES are considered to fit into the role of helpmates.  These are the people you go into business with or who help you along your life path.  These people are recognized because you have an almost instantaneous draw to them, like you have known them forever.  You find yourself able to “click” with these people, yet you may not know anything about them.

Then there are the soulmates you hear so much about – the TWIN FLAME SOULMATES.  The twin flame notion is a popular story line in our culture of “ideal” love.  Plato, who believed one soul splits into a male and female half in order to incarnate on earth, first presented the twin flame soulmate theory.  Plato theorized that earth was full of such duality, such as black and white, good and bad, male and female.  He thought that each soul born on earth had to split into two halves prior to birth to be part of the earth experience.

A major source of our new understanding of soulmates comes from our study of NDE, which is revolutionizing the traditional concepts of soulmates.  For several years we have invited NDErs to share their experience and understandings from their experience on our Near Death Experience Research Foundation web site (  No longer are we looking at soulmates in the romantic context of karma, dharma, and twin flames in the same way.  Now, we look at concepts of love and lessons in the context of groups of souls that travel through time with one another.  As part of this introduction, we have included a representative sample of what the majority of NDErs are telling us.

Near death experiencer’s (NDErs) are those who had a special experience at the time of a life-threatening event.  NDE is relatively common.  A 1993 Gallup Poll estimated 12 to 15 million Americans personally experienced a NDE.  Of people facing a life-threatening event, approximately 10% to 33% will experience a NDE.  NDErs have remarkably similar experiences, regardless of their belief systems prior to the experience.

Virtually all NDE experiencers we encountered felt their experience was real, significant and meaningful.  When asked directly if the experience was dreamlike in any way, practically all NDE experiencers we polled answered, “no.”  NDE has been extensively documented in medical literature.  The ability of NDErs to see and hear events around them, even at a time of cessation of heart and lung function, has been studied and proven.  There are multiple accounts of blind NDErs having visual experiences.  Virtually all NDErs eventually have some degree of spiritual growth from the experience, with perhaps the most common being a lack of fear of death.  Skeptics of NDE have not been able to find a plausible biological or physiologic explanation for NDE.  This failure on the part of skeptics explains the large number of varied and generally unaccepted alternative explanations for NDE.

The information and understandings NDErs return with from their experience is clearly beyond the earth realm and involves universal spiritual truths.  For several years we invited NDErs to share their experience and wisdom they learned on the web site.  Their collective wisdom consistently reveals the same universal truths.  From the NDErs insights, we can learn a great deal about soulmates and their purpose on earth.

The majority of NDErs insights focus on relationships, love, and spiritual growth.  In fact, the concepts of love and spiritual growth are used interchangeably in relating their experiences.  Many NDErs have life reviews providing powerful understandings of relationships.  Many times NDErs, in their experience, are given a choice to leave or to return to earth.  More NDErs chose to return to earth due to their connection with family members (especially children) rather than spouses or romantic liaisons.  Additionally, there are more reports of seeing dead relatives than spouses that have passed on.  There are also numerous reports of seeing people they have never met, but are instantly recognized as intimately familiar.

These relationship truths suggest the concept of “cluster groups” as a group of beings we are especially close to both during and apart from our time on earth.  Our cluster groups are described as those with whom we choose to travel through time while learning important spiritual lessons.  From the NDE truths, it appears there are strong cluster group bonds that transcend earthly relations.  Further, cluster groups are more easily recognized and understood in our pre-birth or after-death existence.  Consequently, cluster group bonds may be the soulmate bonds we recognize on earth.  Thus the term “soulmate” has a surprising twist that goes beyond romantic partners.  Soulmates may very well be those we know on earth as family or romantic partners, and are important to our quest to learn the spiritual lessons we need to know.

One pattern we see is that recognition of your core-cluster mate may not be instantaneous.  If a person has relationship issues, such as lack of commitment or lack of trust from a bad prior relationship, they may be blinded from recognizing a core cluster mate. Consequently, there appears to be an element of timing and pre-planning to meet each other. There appears to be an element of being emotionally open enough to allow a soulmate relationship like this to occur.  It is likely both people must have reached a certain level of spiritual growth to understand and accept the special spiritual nature of the soulmate relation.  One person may recognize the soulmate nature of the relation before the other. It is the recognition of the soulmate nature of the relation on both sides that produces the intense bonding that occurs.

What we have found is that when two people act in loving harmony, synchronicity happens.  Synchronicity is when the combination of two energies is greater than the sum of their parts, for example:  1 + 1 = 4, as occurs when two core cluster mates come together.   The romantic union of core cluster mates may be the ultimate expression of loving co-creation on earth.

The lessons we learn through our relationships address our spiritual growth.  Many times spiritual growth and love are synonymous with one another.  NDErs report feelings of tremendous love and interconnectedness of all life.  The word most commonly used by NDErs to describe the other side is “love”.  To this end, the definition of soulmates is “a loving relationship manifesting spiritual growth.”

Now we want to understand more about the nature of the relationships and how to overcome barriers.  Your comments and stories are welcome.  Please e-mail us and let us know what you think, as this is a work in progress.  We have a website at that has additional information on soulmates and a web form to submit your soulmate experiences.

E-mail your comments to Jody at:



AngelicView: In Outlander, Claire travels through time to meet up with her Soulmate… my favorite book series which has been made into an epic show ❤

5 thoughts on “Soulmates – from an NDE Perspective

  1. Pingback: Soulmates – from an NDE Perspective @ Angelic View | | Pauline Battell | Star Seed | Lightarian (TM) Rays Master-Practitioner | Reiki Kundalini Master-teacher |Spiritual Channeller | Lightworker |

  2. My mother , brother and I had an NDE experience in our lives, at different times. My feeling was of complete contentment and the absence of fear. Since then I only have fear of suffering; but not of death.

  3. “Twin flames” are real, but the phenomenon is almost beyond our conception. It is not that elusive dreamlover or life partner that is the stuff of fairytales. Whenever someone exclaims that they must find or manifest their twin flame, they don’t know what they are talking about.

    That said, an NDE might presage recognition of a person’s twin, but then again it will be merely a glimpse (or glimpses) through after death communication or psychic phenomena (in my opinion, they are usually not incarnated at the same time or if they were, one is already passed due to a significant age difference of a decade or more). People really need to understand the adverse effects of *premature* reunion with one’s twin because it was not meant for this lifetime.

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